Quantum reflection and the simplicity of our complexities

Okay, so some of the stuff that I listen to online, I listen to, because again, if I'm not speaking with anybody, you know, you don't bounce off of, you listen to certain things and then you go, there, that's something I wanted to talk on. Now, I actually did a video on this. However, well, you know, I don't know. I don't know if sometimes...

Maybe I'm more comfortable on voice notes, but sometimes it doesn't land when it's on video, or I felt it didn't land. Anyways, it was on something that I called quantum mirroring. That is not necessarily the term, however. It's quantum reflection. So in the video, I go over how we express this in the 3D in a human sense, right? Not just quantum, right?

because I was looking at the similarities between quantum mechanics and the realities of life and how they really do express our nature, our human nature. So anyways, aside from spiritual things, just certain things that you can really look at and they, how do I explain? It's kind of like if you would say,

Simplifying our complexities. That's kind of what I would describe it as. We think that we're so complex and yet we are because we have many different facets to us given that none of us come from a control group.

So none of us start with the same mix of things or situations or backgrounds or nature or upbringing or factors or anything like that. So because of that, we don't all start off the same, right? We also don't all end up the same. What we do see are the basics of life still shown into our humanity. So the simplicity of our actions,

are what I think of quantum mechanics. So in quantum reflection, it basically describes this same notion, which is that we bounce off or we reflect off of what we are presented with. So in that video, I went into explaining how relationships, like especially if you're in toxic relationships,

you will mirror this person, which is why you attract this person. You will only be with what is of yourself, essentially. Once you grow from that phase, you either leave and transition into another relationship. You know, again, if you're dating or whatever, you know, I'm not getting into those complexities there. But you end up moving on according to your growth and according to what you're mirroring.

So a lot of times in relationships, we'll say, oh, you know, we're just, you know, this person is this way, this way, this way, this way. But when you sit down, you have to think of what attracted that person to you in the first place and what actions you're marrying with that person. And until you start seeing yourself and actually self-analyzing

you'll notice that a lot of toxic relationships, it's the toxicity that keeps you together. For example, something simple. Like if you're addicted to drugs, you have a drug addiction and this person has a drug addiction. Essentially that addiction, that toxicity is that you both mirror in each other is what brings you together because it's not something that you can openly share with everybody else.

so in your privacy which you take that as the person truly knows me right so in your privacy in your private life or the things that you hide that person is exposed to the things that you hide which we interpret as this person intimately knows me and this is not an intimacy this is a

a bondage that you both have and you're marrying toxic behavior to each other as to why this person is in your life in the first place. So we'll say that, um, oh, but this person is this way and this person is that way. And it's like, but what in that person is similar to you, to the way that you are in nature as to why you ended up with that person in the first place. Okay. So now does that go for every situation?

Um, maybe not the mirroring aspects, but yes, because even if you say, well, we're very different, uh, this person's very demanding. I'm very quiet. You know, I allow this person to take over and what happens, what you're both marrying is insecurity. One is insecure and thus has to overextend themselves to affirm their security.

by acting outside of themselves. The other person is quiet, yet they're still expressing the same thing, an insecurity. They're both not voicing out who, what, when, why, what they feel. So the insecurity, although it looks different to each person in expression, it ends up being the same thing. So this mirroring effect, you see it in quantum.

And it says here, the quantum reflection refers to the phenomenon where particles, such as neutrons and atoms, at our basis we are just atoms, but with feelings. Anyways, reflect from a surface in a matter that highlights their wave-like properties. Unlike classical particles, the ones that are, you know, set in stone in their ways, which would typically be absorbed or scattered upon striking a surface,

Quantum particles can reflect smoothly due to the interaction between their wave functions and their surface's potential. This effect is particularly noticeable when particles approach a surface at a grazing angle and possess low velocities. So one thing that I get into in that video is that you as, like if you think of it in a quantum sense, what happens when we get tricked into things, right?

and we go but this person sold me one thing and they're this other thing that is another effect of quantum reflection what happens is they will meet you at where you're at so in other words they meet you and your potential and who you are that person doesn't have a self-identity themselves but they want to impress you they will mirror your energy

And it starts off, even in quantum mechanics, it starts off at a high velocity. In other words, with a lot of energy, it starts off with a lot of potential, a lot of energy. And from what you can notice at first, you go, oh, this is something that we're very similar, we're alike. And what happens is that there's where the confusion lies as to why you would want to take your time in relationships and in quantum mirroring. Because what happens is that

At the long term, it fizzles out. But at the beginning, there's a lot of energy. There's a lot of potential, a lot of energy. And why? Because they match you. That person will match your particular energy, your particular wavelength that you are on. And what they are doing basically is they're hitching a ride with you, matching your energy. The person is under the impression that you both are two peas in a pod and you're actually not.

but you're so excited you rush into things and this is where we make the mistake of not trying to take our time with an individual because you don't really get to see whether the person fizzles out or not to actually test whether they're on the same wavelength as you or not truly and what it is is quantum reflection they are simply just matching your energy reflecting the same thing there imagine if the person was a physical mirror

all you're seeing is more of yourself. So that's nice. You love yourself, but, um, you know, they're just matching your energy and it turns out that that person is not truly on your same wavelength, um, and not truly matching your energy, but they will make it as if they are, you know, um, and, you know, some people are very psychotic. They could take that to very extreme levels of how much they want to pursue a person. Um, and,

you know, manipulation and things like that. So, you know, at least in quantum, the particles will not do this, but unfortunately people will. So that's the difference. Um, you know, they might go and try to manipulate, uh, your interaction. They'll manipulate situations. Um, you'd be very surprised have, you know, you have conversations with people and, um,

yeah you know you'll have conversations with people and if you listen to their conversations you begin to realize how far and the lengths that some people are willing to go to to try to um you know they don't see it as anything bad as much as that they're trying to win you but

in essence, you know, people were not a prize, you know, I mean, yes, we're a prize. Yeah, sure. But we're not a physical prize. So you're, there's not a need to pull strings and manipulate and do all these things in order to win the person over. Because in reality, you're not being yourself. So the person when they get attracted to you, or they fall for you, or whatever,

in essence they're going to feel very duped because the person who they met is not going to be the person at the longevity or the long run of who they're going to be with and they're going to be wondering why and it was because the person was not being authentically themselves but more than that they weren't being honest and you know it's a lot to say about that you know when people are not honest from the get-go it's like if you're honest yes it may not work with that person

But if you're honest and you're being yourself, it doesn't require for you to be perfect. But one thing that I did notice throughout, you know, life is that, you know, it's not necessary that you just want to say, like, you didn't do the person. I mean, you don't want to do the person. But when the person loves, love is very forgiving. There's a lot of space in that love. So the love is not conditional.

it's not that they mean for it not to be conditional but when the person is genuinely like genuinely in love with the person and you've actually put yourself forward you can be comfortable be open be yourself with anybody and with everybody but be comfortable and open with that one person I always say it takes one you just need one right so you're comfortable and you're open with this one person well that one person

is going to have a different type of love for you because you're not having to, you know, if you're with a bun on your head, if you've got makeup, no makeup, if you have an attitude that they, you know, there's not going to be a lack of love in that situation. That person has already met and loved you as you are. You don't have to put up a front or pretend that you don't fart. You know, it's like things like that. It's like,

You know, you end up just being yourself. So that person, when you have love for a person and you've truly met them as they are, there's a lot of grace in that. And what I've seen is that they love you in a very relentless way. People will love each other in a very relentless way. And what I mean by that is that when the love is faked or when you're there trying to put up a front, you're going to have to remember like a dance every step

of what this person likes and doesn't like, and it's not genuine. So the person's love will be very conditional because you've already accustomed it to be conditional. You've accustomed that love to be conditional because you've given the person everything that they've wanted every single time. They're not expecting anything different. So when you act out of line or when you slip up and you're yourself, well, guess what?

it's one, they're going to feel duped. They're not that to me translates as, I don't trust you. And the, I don't trust you. My, it goes further, you know, lack of respect. You don't, you know, you start not liking the person, whatever it be. Um, those are the things that you could prevent at the long run by not trying to force a person's will into being like, Hey, you need to be with me. And that's what I want. And that's it. Um,

So we can feel however we want, but sometimes it's better to go through the heartache or the rejection or whatever, rather than trying to conform ourselves and break ourselves to try to fit this person's mold. This is not something that you would want even for yourself because at the long term, this person won't have an unconditional love towards you.

they'll have a very conditional love towards you and you know you'll hear phrases like well this person wants me to be perfect and they want me to be like this and they want me to be like that it's like because you didn't come as yourself you didn't come as yourself from the beginning these things they get worked out at the beginning of the relationship because that person would have already gotten to know you and then like she gets cranky when she doesn't eat but I love her you know she

she gets cranky on her period and real sensitive but I love her like all the little things that you do I'm not saying that the person is going to love everything that you do but it's not going to be something unexpected and when you have a certain length of time you fizzle out and you know um well at the uh at the particle level it's like seven months apparently

at the macro level, I don't know. But at that level, it's seven months. So anyways, let me see here.

There is something else that I remember having in my notes. But so this is a quantum mirage. So quantum mirage. I like a lot of the terms too, because it's like whenever I think of things that I like, you know, you perceive when it comes to quantum mechanics, it's very self, like the terminologies and everything. Nothing to me is very complicated. It's very self-explanatory.

I'm like, this makes sense. It doesn't, it doesn't make like a little bit of sense. It's like, it's perfect. Like it's perfect sense, makes perfect sense. So anyways, a quantum mirage is a phenomenon observed in quantum systems exhibiting chaotic behavior. Okay. So particularly in the systems with quantum billiards in such systems, classical trajectories can lead to focusing of probability densities at specific points.

When a ring of atoms known as a quantum chorale is arranged on the surface, these focusing points can manifest as quantum mirages, areas where the probability density of finding a particle is enhanced, even though no particle is directly present at the location. So it's as if, again, to me, this also, it's like the quantum mirage. It's as if it appears to be something that it is not.

but there is actually no particle there. The person that you're trying to look for, you know, it has all the suits of it. It makes a ring and everything, but all it does is end up making a mirage for you. So when we pretend and, you know, we really don't, you know, really put ourselves out there as ourselves, I don't,

quite see the point of it because you could force someone's will. Sure. You can get them. Sure. But how do you get them? You know, because at the end of the day, what you want is, I assume, is that you want that person to love you or you want that person to care for you or you want that person to pick you or you want that person to really be intrigued by you.

none of the above will happen none of the above will happen because it's very different to say I grabbed flowers in the field and I put them in your face and you go okay thanks or it's the comparison is it was a sad day and you went to a whole dead field of flowers like a whole dead field and when you reached the end you saw a bunch of beautiful flowers at the end those flowers become special to you it was a thing of of timing it was a thing of chance it was a thing of you know

the moment of how you felt. There's synchronistic meaning to it. Letting things happen organically have meaning. And when we try to produce things, they aren't organic. And because it's not organic, it's not something that will arise and perpetuate any true sentiment and emotion within us. And that's something to really understand when it comes to, especially things with relationships and love,

how it does not serve us to force each other into love scenarios or force people in general to love us. There's not a point to that because you're always going to have people that, you know, they may not love you at first, like as far as people, people, you know, they may not love you at first, but maybe you'll grow on them. So that's fine, you know, but you have to give the chance for that to happen.

And maybe it's more appreciated. I remember I would get that a lot. I remember I would get that a lot. I would have people that if it depends when they meet me, you know, but if I'm with a serious face on, I might look very serious. I suffered a lot throughout my life with migraines. And my face looks very serious when I'm having a migraine.

And I was usually having a migraine if it was that I was sitting at my desk a lot or typing a lot. But I'm not going to go whining and complaining to everybody that I'm in pain and that I have a migraine. So you get a serious face. What you get is a face that looks a bit mean. But how many of us don't have like, you know, I've seen men that have mean, mean, mean faces, mean faces.

you know? And it's like the sweetest bear, you know? It's the sweetest guy, sweetest person, but he looks like a mean ass, you know? And it's just what, it is what it is. We got our faces, you know? So, um, I would have a lot of people that would meet me at first and be like, I thought she was mean when I first met her. And then I got to know her and I really liked her. So, and I got that all the time from people. And I was just like, Hmm, you know, um, I was like, I didn't think I looked that mean, but then, you know, it depends when you meet me. And I never really,

I tried to change that. I wasn't going to change it because at some point what happens is that you authentically meet that person. You know, sometimes those are barriers that are there for a reason, because even if it's for the person to say, I thought she was mean, but then I it made that person have to open up.

and give the benefit of a doubt. They get to choose, do I judge this person or do I get to know this person? And they make the choice. That choice alone is a moment of growth for even that person, even for me, because I go, well, maybe I could smile more even if my face hurts, you know? So there's different reasons as to why things are how they are. And if we just try to always modify ourselves

Yes, in essence, we're losing our chance for growth and the other person might be losing their experience of growth as well. But in that experience, both people, you build a relationship. And I ended up having real nice friendships and real nice relationships with people because of things like that, that they experienced that they thought it was one thing and they thought it was another.

And you'd be surprised because even for me, when I've had those type of things happen to me, it opens me up to say, oh, you know what? I experienced that with that person. Perhaps with this person who seems this way, I'll be more open next time. I won't jump off the bridge thinking that this person is maybe mean or something. Maybe this person, I'll give the benefit of a doubt. And it ends up resulting in that person's heart space opening up. So everything happens organically for a reason.

If you're yourself, it is fine. I'm not, you know, when I tell people be yourself, I don't push them to be happy because it's not, that's not to me the goal in life. It's not for you to fake happy. It's not for you to always be happy. It's for you to be yourself.

And the reason I would always push that a lot is because at my core, for the most part, I am a very playful person, but only in my private life, like with people that I know that I trust, because really in reality, for the most part, I might seem serious at other points. Again, it really depends where you know me and how you know me. You'll know different aspects of me, but I'm not going to probably pull some of that

in other spaces. In other spaces, you might think I'm very quiet, reserved, and I don't really talk much. You know, while in other spaces, I might be very conversational. It really just depends, you know. But the playfulness, I kind of reserve that type of stuff. Or they might see that I'm very not touchy-feely with people, but yet I might be touchy-feely with the person that I'm with. So that might be, it would be, you know. So it's, everything is in its right place, you know.

I kind of like, it's kind of like having a shelf. Life is like a shelf and you know, every place that you're at, you kind of have a place for it. And like, and I'm not saying that at work, you know, again, it also depends what type of job I was in because while I was younger, but for the most part, I liked playing a lot of pranks and stuff, but like nice pranks, not like these mean, cruel pranks, like nice, funny pranks. Like

especially if the office got boring or if we were really under a lot of stress. To me, that was a great way of breaking things up. But also I was used to having leadership, you know, like being in some point at leadership. So when you reach moments where you're really tired or you're working on a project and everybody's kind of like, you reach those points where you're delirious, but you're bummed too, because you're just like, you got to get it done. So

those are the points where I will insert something like that because I'm like, we need some more motivation. I was like, we need to break up this monotony. And usually, and you know, I had that ex-boyfriend for several years. He was the same exact way. So we would be there like, hmm, what should we do? And it was always something like real silly, like, okay, well, we're doing this project or we're doing these things.

What should we do to prank everybody? Or what should we do that's silly that'll put everybody in a better mood? And it's good to kind of have those type of things just to break up those type of areas in your life. But again, at that point, it was a person I was with that I mirrored with very well. We reflected each other very well. But sometimes when it's in toxic situations, you're

Marrying toxicities, you know, and I think that a lot of people confuse that they're sharing these toxic habits with someone as Intimacy and that's actually not intimacy. It's quite the opposite It's simply the only person who shares in your toxicity so deeply that it's the one that knows your secrets You know, so this is not this is not a person that whether it be a

any type of toxicity, whether it be drugs, drinking, sex, whatever it is, whatever toxicity you both share in, even if it's that you have an abusive nature to you and it's something you have not worked on, but you know that that person is abusive as well, you will mirror that person. You'll judge that person.

but not but fail to see that that toxicity is you as well you're with every every time in Spanish they say the same thing but it's like you're with that person for a reason it's like they're together because it's because you guys are alike so if you're together you're you're one for each other because you're both reflecting the same type of behavior

And until the people self-reflect and realize, wait a minute, I'm with this person because we're doing the same thing. Now, when you have one individual that decides to change and say, I'm going to grow outside of this already, I'm going to change and I'm going to better myself and leave these things behind me. That's when you cut that relationship with that person to no longer sharing that toxic behavior with that person and mirror it.

And it's what will end up making you both incompatible at that point in order to move on. But you will not move on from that person until you accept that you are one in the same of that person as to why they're in your life in the first place. And you have to self-reflect in order to figure that out.

because even in a situation where you say it's low self-esteem, but the low self-esteem could look very different in each individual. One individual, it could express totally different. So you have to be self-observing, which means that requires us to humble ourselves. If we're always in our pride and our ego, it's not bad for us to have pride and ego. But when the pride and the ego blinds us to ourselves,

we will constantly be in these vicious cycles because we have not self-reflected enough and let go of our pride to accept that we're in the wrong in certain areas. I'm like, should I give that example? I will. I was dating this man once and the man had three ex-wives and he was trying to tell me how

He was dealing with them and the things that he had complaints about and whatnot. And he kept telling me the complaints and the scenarios and the situations. And I was here sitting back thinking, I agree with that ex-wife.

I agree with that ex-wife. I agree with that ex-wife too. And I told them, I said, you know what? I'm going to end up being your fourth ex-wife. They said, if I keep dating you, I go because I don't disagree with them. I was like, I don't disagree with them. I go. And what was crazy was that I asked him straight, straight up asked him, I said, what part that you play in all of your divorces?

He says, oh, I didn't do anything wrong. It was them. They were crazy. I said, oh, okay. So even in my conversation with him, he still had not reflected over each relationship to acknowledge that he even played a part and the things we all play a part in our relationships. There's no way that you're innocent 100%. I mean, very few cases. But if you're long-term with someone, you marry them and everything, it's like,

what, what was it that happened there? You know, did you select wrong? Did you pick out of lust? You know, you could say situations like that, but the reality is that there takes a time that it takes two to tangle. Like what didn't you self reflect on to have learned that maybe you played a part in that, uh, the solution of marriage, you know? Um, and I was like, nothing, like you did nothing wrong. He says, no, I didn't do anything wrong. And I said all three times,

no nothing i was like right and i was already seeing what these women were complaining to him about which funny enough um a lot of the things i don't think people listen uh to themselves when they're speaking but as i was listening to him i could tie the line as to that they all had the same complaint about him so i'm just kind of looking him and i was like he doesn't even realize

Right now, as he's sitting in front of me, that all these women have repeated to him the same complaint. And all the women loved him. They loved him. It wasn't that it was a lack of love. They loved him. But he would not self-reflect. He would not admit his faults. He would not look within himself and say, I made the mistake. So I told him, I said, I am fortunate to be with all of your ex-wives. I said, I'd be your fourth one if we continue with this, my friend.

um so sometimes we have to sit down with ourselves and really self-reflect and say wait a minute why am I having issues with this person is it that maybe it is something that is on your part or is it that the toxicity if it's that it's toxic what toxicity are you both sharing in you know um because again we confuse intimacy sometimes and the

Intimacy that we confuse is the fact that you share in toxic behavior with that person. And since they're the only ones that can see that side of you, we take that as, oh, that's toxic behavior that we share together, but this person knows me. So they know me intimately. No, what they know is your toxicity, but that still does not mean that they know you intimately because it may not be the person that you've opened up to truly.

or that truly knows you, you know? So that's always something to look at. But when we get into these other things of like, when I was going over that one, it was how we merit, yes, toxicity, but also how we reflect, you know, how we can tell if the person is just reflecting off of our energy. And, you know, they're just trying to impress us and call to our attention. And really that person doesn't have the,

Whether it be good intentions, bad intentions, some people don't reflect enough to see that as doing anything wrong. But the problem is that they're not being themselves. They're trying to match you so that you see what you want to see. And then that's where that gets dangerous because you'll have this total different impression of this person and then wonder where did they go. So you fell in love with the mirage. This person never existed.

and that always becomes very very something very at least for me when I was younger that was something that I would feel real sad about why because it's when you fall in love with potential right so you fall in love with this person's potential you see all these things in them that you thought were there because it's what they sold you you know so you have all of this interest in this person and it's all this energy that they merit off of you which is

in itself, you go, I love myself, I guess. But you end up getting that reflection of they're just trying to meet your standard of what they think that you want. So sometimes we're very excited when we meet people, right? So we'll even tell them like, oh, I like this, I like that. And you start sharing. And what happens is that in that type of sharing, that person, they're listening to you as to what you want. And they will mimic

what it is that you want and mirror your energy. So you'll fall in love with the potential of this person all to find out that that person never existed. That person does not exist. And I've been in that situation and you, you end up very disappointed because it's not that the person left anywhere. It's that the person never existed. You know, you just like the person's there, but the person is not there, you know? Um,

And that becomes a very big disappointment, you know, because it's almost as if not just you were tricked, but almost like you tricked yourself because we just don't know how to differentiate what to recognize sometimes when people are doing that with us. So that's why it's good to befriend each other. It's good to get to know the person and really observe.

some healthy habits. Don't observe all the negative, observe all the good things. You know, I know people talk about like how to, how do you picture and look at toxic behavior and how do you look? And I'm like, you're looking at all the wrong things because what you need to be looking out for are all the healthy things. You need to be looking at all the good aspects of that person because the person who has these good aspects, they're not, the toxic person won't

incorporate with these it won't have these things you know sometimes we put so much attention and focus on looking oh let me see if they're doing something bad and when you go down the checklist and you're like oh they do this but that's not bad so okay cool alright that's not bad so that's cool but you're not looking at all of the positive concrete things that the person could truly be expressing some behaviors they're just they don't you know it's like saying I'm looking for apples but the person is an orange tree

So, you know, if you're essentially not looking to see the fruits of their behavior, the fruits of who they are, you know, like things like if the person has a piece, you know, or how they kind of navigate through situations, you're not really going to get to know that person or really reflect on some of the good aspects that a toxic person just they won't possess these type of things, you know.

So sometimes we get caught up in the whole, let's look at their toxic behaviors and let's look at, see if we see any signs. And I think it's kind of, yes, yes, don't be blind to those toxic patterns. But even in things like this, you know, it's not like you're looking for red flags, but me particularly, I try to see, you know, is this person an individual? Like, do they have their own desires?

we can have things in common, but do they have things that, what differs from them to me? And I do look at that a lot. I'm like, I want the person to be themselves. I'm not trying to find someone, I want someone in my likeness, but I want someone who's themselves. So you're gonna look at what differences do we have? And that to me, you know, and everybody has something different, but you wanna look at the differences.

Because especially if you're looking for a partner, usually a partner is someone who, you know, how you say and you meet like really healthy couples and you go, oh, this person, they make me a better man. They make me a better woman. Well, why? Because usually that person encompasses some aspects of yourself that you do not have, meaning they're not mirroring you. So they they possess certain things that you do not have.

and it makes you a better person. It makes you stronger to have this person on your side, to have them by your side and to be one with them because it's someone that you can trust and they basically have points to themselves, to their character, to their thinking, to their personality, to whatever that you don't possess. That's why it's very silly when you hear about these couples that says, oh, they were jealous one of the other. It's like that person is supposed to be

your difference you know they're supposed to be different from you to be you know um not your enemy but to be someone you could rely on that in those differences it makes you stronger the things that you're usually they're your weak points that person possesses it you know like i'm expecting like if i'm you know scatterbrained and whatever but this person's organized and set in his ways i'm like that's great

But there's a reason why I'm different in that sense, you know. And it's usually it ends up being a balance thing because of that reason. You're both different to both make a whole of something. So if we're looking for all of the sameness, you know, that we're both alike, that we're both. You're not looking for someone who counterbalances you or who brings you balance because of that reason.

you know um so if you see someone who's just completely marrying your energy marrying you you know you have to think it's like more of me but why you know um why do i want more of what i am and is this person do they have their own thoughts do they have their own personality do they have their own desires um and and that becomes very important because it does bring

you know especially for well if I was a male but you know especially for a male you know does this person add to my life you know even if you say like because again people put down like oh it's just a housewife I'm like uh no it's not just a housewife she cooks she cleans she handles all the things that you don't you're not cleaning your own clothes you're not uh you know making a home you know the aspect of the home the kids being taken care of that's a job in itself

so does she bring balance does she when you get home is it peaceful you know this person adds to your life they're not taking away from you they're adding to your life um and people take the whole thing about like food like they underestimate that i'm like you know there's a lot of people out here that i don't know the people don't cook or nothing i'm like so you come home to no food like it's important you know it's it's something

You have to be grateful for whatever aspects are important to you. And you have this partner that really brings balance and peace and makes a home a home in your life. There's something to say about that. That's something to be appreciated, to be grateful for. Because it's not aspects that you're doing for yourself. Even in things like that where you go, oh, I don't want this person to mother me. But it's like she's not mothering you. She's nurturing and taking care of you.

and it's not something to be confused, you know, also not something to be put down because mothers are there to give their children guidance, you know, to help, to guide, to lead, to teach, to instruct, but in a way where they're nurturing themselves, taking care of their bodies, grooming, styling, cleaning. So, you know, if you have this person that's

uh, you know, even with my ex, I'd be like trying to groom him all the time. Like the monkeys do. I've been trying to groom him all the time. And it's like, you're doing that. Why? Because you nurture the person. Cause you actually care. You know, you want him to go out. Oh, your shirt's wrinkled. Hold on. I don't want you to go out with a wrinkled shirt. Oh, hold on. Let me fix your hair. Oh, hold on your nails. No, we need to take care of that. Like they're trying to genuinely care for you. And in these small ways where the person

whether because they're too busy or they don't care enough. It is a way of showing you love so that you can love yourself more and care for your body, care for your health, care for yourself more. So, you know, do you provide that for yourself? No, but that might be something that's important then for you to look for in somebody else if it's something that you know that you falter in. You know, do you nurture yourself? No, you're hard on yourself. Okay, then you're looking again, I'm talking single people.

You're looking for someone to nurture you as well. Things like that. You're really going to want to look for aspects of yourself that you're lacking in and those areas that you're lacking in. It would be wise to then have someone who complements those areas in order to help you be more of a whole person. Do you show yourself love? No, I beat myself down. Okay, this person's very loving. And you find matches like that.

very organically because they fill those areas and spaces and bring healing to those areas and spaces where you yourself do not maintain them for whatever reason whether it's because you're too busy or because it's not part of your nature but it is something that is good for you you know other aspects too because even when you say talents you know uh thinking wisdom whatever you know

you want that person to compliment those aspects about you vice versa so when you have someone that just mirrors your energy and it's just reflecting off of you you know they're just pulling from your energy meaning this person is codependent they're mirroring your energy but they're also depending on you for your energy that's one thing to also realize so it's the clear surefire way even in quantum to know that uh

that person is going to be codependent because why because they're codependent on what you tell them they're going to be asking you what you want all of the time they are codependent on your energy they're codependent on you whatever it is that you tell them you know um and those are things to also look at because if the person is codependent on you they're always going to be pulling from your energy and also if they're not of anything of

themselves, they're, you know, they're going to be relying and putting the pressure on you to always ask, you know, well, what is it that you want? And it's not in a sense of like that they're trying to please you. That could be the case because, you know, especially there's two cases. There's a few cases of that. If the person is cranky and rowdy all the time and they're constantly saying like, well, you tell me what you want then.

because you're too fastidioso, you're too fastidious and too pleased. At that point, the person might just surrender and say, well, you just tell me what you want so that I could help to please you. But then in essence, you want the person to kind of figure it out. But this kind of goes back to the same thing. If you're yourself and you're, and I'm talking about unhealthy terms, you're yourself,

you're going to naturally be able to bounce off of each other in an organic way where, you know, nor one nor the other has to constantly be, but what is it that you want? But what is it that you want? You know, but if the person is too fastidious, then they're going to constantly, you're going to put them in a position where they're going to constantly have to ask you because nothing pleases you. So, and that person is looking to do right by you. They're just looking to please you. So at that point, that person might just surrender and ask you,

So it's not a thing of them mirroring you, more so that they're just trying to please you and they don't know what else to do with you. So we need to be, again, self-reflective and be aware. Is that what we're doing? Because you put people in certain positions where you don't want them to act like that or you don't want them to act as if they're very dependent on you and your energy. But you might not leave them a choice at that point if it's that you're not

going on certain things or nothing that they do pleases you. But in the other case, if you see a person that has mirrored you and is just trying to give you what you want or they think that you know what you want, at that point, that person will be very codependent on your energy because it's the only way that they get to reflect off of you. So if you don't give them the first material, there's nothing for them to mirror back to you.

You know, so this is where it's good to kind of gradually get to know people and see, you know, does this person have their own personality? Do they have their own way of thinking? Do they have, you know, I know people get into the whole thing of narcissism and this and that. And I'm just like, I think there's just so many narcissistic traits because of how this generation has just evolved slowly with how we have things. So how we interact, everything has just changed.

as far as that goes as to we think that we're the center of the universe so it is also just important to you know self reflect again you know if we're constantly if we all are a bunch of you know a wave of narcissistic tendency people and we're only reflecting on the things that we deserve and it's for us and everything's about us

um it puts us in circumstances where we can't really look outside of ourselves you know um and help others like we can't put our size of outside of ourselves and really empathize in any way um so we have a lot um in this world where it's just kind of like this fake compassion or fake empathy um

but it's not truthful. It's not, it's not truthful. So, you know, people have to end up playing pretend to try to fit the mold. And then in reality, it just doesn't quite fit because it's not genuine. So it goes back to the same thing. You know, if you're out in the, and you find the random field of flowers, there's the synchronistic part of it that it makes it feel something is different. And you feel that when people are genuinely in love with you, genuinely attracted to you, genuinely really drawn,

the genuine feelings are very different from manufactured feelings so the goal would be to have that genuine appreciation towards each other and genuine development of a relationship and why because life goes through a lot of turmoils it goes through a lot of ups and downs there's a lot of things that happen in life and you're going to be able to

better resist a lot of things and go through things because again if you're with a person where they've only given to you everything that you want and if we think of narcissistic tendencies towards even that you're going to be accustomed to then always getting how how it needs to be it's going to be a very conditional cut and dry love you know um versus if you allow things to kind of blossom

and be organic and be natural and really be drawn to the correct people in our lives, you're going to have a love that is organic, that blossoms differently, that attracts differently, that has a lot of mercy within it. And you need to get to certain points in yourself in order to also, I believe, really attract these things.

and some sooner than others, because I really think that this has to do with the opening of your heart. And if we are young and we're already kind of either, you know, our parents have gone through divorce or, you know, you've been through things that you have trust issues, all of these things affect you. But you'll see these like young people that they're so in love, they're bushy tailed and bright eyed. They get married young and they have kids.

I'm like, bless them, leave them alone. They'll go through their own struggles in life, but they had an open heart in order for them to attract and receive and go into life with these notions and feelings that are very beautiful and innocent and organic. And I think that when people get older, even they try to replicate that type of sentiment. But when that innocence is lost from people

We lose that because we lose connection with our heart because we have gained other things. We've gained distrust. We've gained, you know, being betrayed. We've gained all of these things that really harden the heart space and cause, you know, kind of like shadowy figures over things, you know. And it's good to then, especially if it's that you, whether you're right now, because the way the world is, whether you're younger, you're older.

is good to self-reflect and know what you attract and recognize, you know, if this person is being genuine. And I think that that's one of the ways to really do it. If you see that this person is just kind of marrying you because they just want you. And I think that people who are, have something to give, you know, quote unquote give,

And also people that are good looking, you know, us mediocre cats, we got a little bit easier because, you know, because we get to sit around and be like, you know, kind of reflect a little bit differently. Not everybody's trying to take advantage. But, you know, if you have and I feel like that's a burden in itself. But if you are a person that's more on the good looking side, you might have people be a bit more manipulative towards you because they're trying real hard to to get you.

Um, so it's good to kind of see if that person is, you know, uh, being genuine with you and not just marrying your energy, not just trying to appeal to everything that you like. Um, and really observe if this person is kind of like, you know, their own person, uh, it'll be fit for the best and, um, and, and see how you add to each other's lives. I don't think that it could, it has to be that complicated, but again, when you have an energy that is, is open.

that energy naturally you're going to attract because think of it if you're happy you're open you go canoeing you go out into the world you go hang out with friends at some point because of that energy you're interacting with more people so it's it's uh logical and makes sense on a 3d level it makes sense that that energy is what will attract the person that is at your same wavelength because they're going to be out doing the same things

so there's no reason why you wouldn't bump into each other so on an energetic level it makes sense but if you're open-hearted and you know again everybody has their energy but if that's your energy you're out you're open you're exposed you're going out you're you're bound to meet someone and bump into that someone at an energetic level because you're out with an open heart doing the same things

So it only becomes a matter of time, but all you have to do is go be yourself and enjoy your life and meet that person at that frequency. But if you're at a frequency where, you know, you're in turmoil, you're troubled, you're stressed, you're this, you're going to meet the person that's at the same frequency, that they're turmoil, they're stressed, they're burdened.

You're going to meet them at that same frequency because where do you find yourself at that frequency? You might find yourself at the bar. You might find yourself at 2 in the morning trying to dance away your sorrows and drinking. You end up finding yourself in places where your energy is matched. I'm not saying that's for everybody, but you could be two different people going out dancing at 2 in the morning. A person is happy at 2 in the morning out dancing, hanging out with friends.

person that's out at the bar, you know, drinking because they're sad out of their mind and is dealing with depression is sitting there. You end up beating people and bumping into people at your energy level. You know, something that's simple is if you go, well, and you see that a lot in movies and that's a very simple example. You're sitting at the bar at the, you know, the bar stool part, you're sitting there and you're depressed having a drink. Well,

the person that sits next to you at the next barstool and starts having a conversation with you and is in the same energy how did you two meet each other because you're both in the same circumstance that ended you there you know

And usually they'll say, you'll be like, oh, what a coincidence. It's like, oh, I'm going through a divorce. I feel like shitty. Oh, me too. Oh, what a coincidence. We're both going through a divorce. No, mofo. You both are at the same energy frequency. That's why you both met there. That's not a good thing. That's not a good thing. You got to let go of that energy.

that you're in because you're going to meet people that are at that frequency and you go do you want to meet a person that's at that same frequency no you want to get yourself out of that frequency you want to get yourself into healthier healthier circumstances not going to more toxic situations and I'm not saying that there's not exceptions to the rule things happen you know you might genuinely just bump into that person that person might be picking up food and you're sitting at the bar and that person is perfectly fine you know um but

you know, you have to put things kind of into thinking a bit about it a bit logically, but yet there is an energetic component to it. And I think at the quantum level, again, I think it's like going back to the most basics of it, of what that looks like. My battery is low, but so is my minutes anyways there. But anyways, I was thinking about that when she mentioned that, which is again, I'm like, sometimes when I listen to things, I'm like, ah,

I just wanted to pick up on one little phrase that triggers my memory. But yeah, sometimes we don't realize that we're meeting people at a frequency that we're at and we think it's all mumbo jumbo and we go, oh, I don't believe in that. I don't believe in frequencies and all of this energetic stuff. And I'm like, it's just that it doesn't matter that it's not believed in. It's just how life is.

Like it's, it's just, it's like saying like, oh, I don't believe how the wind, like, I don't believe in the wind. It's like, it doesn't matter. I know that it's unseen, but there's, there's a scientific reason as to how the wind moves and what's within the wind and why the wind exists. And, you know, and you go in its energy and, you know, when you go into explaining things in that way, it's like saying, um, I could say at its simplest, oh, it's just wind, you know, it's nature.

but there is a basic component as to how everything navigates through this world at its simplest. So even if it's math or if it's physics or if it's quantum mechanics or if it's, you know, just nature explaining, there's different languages in how to explain and express everything.

and you know sometimes although we say it's more complex you go yeah it's more complex but it's actually simpler it's just it's just the math of how the word of how the world works so it is technically it's at its basis it's at its simplest but there's an explanation for it so regardless of the language that we speak you know it's irrelevant it's just the fact of

Everybody speaks a different language. So sometimes it helps our mind to understand how things work, you know, whether it be scientifically or mathematically. Sometimes it's nice for our brain to comprehend how these, you know, natural things, whether it be human interactions or our emotions or, you know, how things evolve.

it's nice to understand how these things happen, because it doesn't necessarily give us more of a sense of faith, but it does give us more, well, I would say faith, because to me, I think it does, but to each his own. But it gives us more of an understanding as to that certain things are not just emotional, that yes, they're kind of a combination of both, but that we have at an energetic level

a good way of understanding and being able to not manipulate but use it to our advantage once we understand it a little bit better so that we can get through all of these kind of burdens that we carry when things could just be simplified and you know not overtake them but like conquer them

It makes it easier for us to conquer them if it's that we understand it in a different way. Because again, we just all speak a different language. But I do like the fact that I see a lot of different things with quantum. I compare them. But whether that's correct or not, I still do it. It doesn't matter. But anyways.