The interplay of love, neurotransmitters, and pheromones

Okay, so on the aspect of love, because I had to go to chat GPT, but I'm looking into, I'm looking into if the attraction between two individuals can be measured. So specifically with pheromones, right? So one thing that was really interesting that it says here that leads me down a rabbit hole for me,

how attraction is determined by neurotransmitters, hormones, and pheromones. And of course, because I'm going down the neurotransmitters aisle in regards to sugar and all of these diseases, right? And the stickiness that causes the break between neurotransmitters in order for it to make the connect. Now, because of that, okay,

When there's a disconnect in the neurotransmitter, there's a disconnect in dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin, right? So here, it affects them. In turn, it affects excitement, romantic attraction, obsessive thinking, intense attraction, or oxytocin.

your hormones, your testosterone, your estrogen, and your cortisol, which is that it lowers your stress. If it's that it's, you know, that you're in love, it lowers your stress levels and your pheromones. So this was mostly what I was looking into to see about pheromones. So what I was thinking that is interesting about this is that how I was talking about how

People with EDS, diabetes, neurological disorders, Parkinson's, things like that. When you are having your diet, when your diet, I should say, is affecting you to the point that you're having either neurological symptoms or you're dealing with a neurological issue of any sort, this in turn, it is, you know, a lot of people, they deal with depression as well, things like that. This has to do with it. Your neurotransmitters are affected

and because of that disconnect, people, people who are high in stress, who are affected neurologically in some way or manner, are going to be dealing with not having feelings of, you know, maybe they feel like they can't fall in love or they don't have love, okay?

This is a surefire way that the person will be chasing after lust in order to increase their serotonin and oxytocin levels. It's a chemical imbalance. I don't know why that comes to my mind for some reason. But it's like these type of feelings, because the neurotransmitters are blocked,

and they end up messing with your hormones, messing with your pheromones, more than anything, I'm looking at the neurotransmitters and I'm looking at diet and how we'll say like diet doesn't make a difference. Okay, so the diet affecting the neurotransmitters in turn affects not just your sex life because when you talk about the vasopressin, you know, you're talking about also having, um,

whether the person's dealing with depression or not having erectile dysfunction. This is serious. Men at a certain age deal with this. And then their levels of cortisol are very high. Okay. This ends up being a lot of it has to do with the sugar. It is, it is the sugar that's in the diet because of the fact of the

glucosamine, that ends up being, well, because I already went through over that in the last clip, last, last clip or whatever, affecting the neurotransmitters, creating that stickiness. So it doesn't have that bridge to make that connect. So not only does it affect the memory and it affects you neurologically, but in turn, it affects you in other ways, which is your hormones, your pheromones,

And then this is why at certain ages, I was wondering this the other day, because it's like they peak, right? And they'll be like, oh, the person turns into like a lust monster or they, you know, or the women or the men, a lot of it has to do, like if they're on a diet, this has a lot has this to do with the diet. I mean, it's not an excuse. I'm just saying that, you know, especially when it comes to things like erectile dysfunction, um,

i'm not a doctor so i'm not saying there's different reasons as to why that happens however if the person is either dealing with depression that could be from the medicine from the depression um like antidepressants will cause the person to deal with erectile dysfunction however the vasopressin the fact that you know it can't have the pump so since it doesn't have that that blood rush it has to do with the dopamine and the serotonin levels and the oxytocin

in order for it to, you know, to go up. So that has a lot to do with the fact of not having the connect in the neurotransmitters in the first place in order to have those sentiments and feelings, which is why the person goes through depression because they're depressed. They're not going through the elevations of emotion or feelings. They won't have feelings of then love.

Not that they don't love, it's just that they'll be missing all of these feelings of excitement or when you have a crush or when all of those feelings and sentiments seem to kind of be null. And at that point, the person will jump into feelings of having to jump into lustful feelings in order to always get them there. So they're constantly looking for whatever makes them lustful in order to get up, specifically men.

And then that's why the person will go after that. And it has to do a lot with their diet and neurological issues. And neurotransmitters. And the sugar in the diet. But the diet overall. It's these diets. It's these diets.

You know, they can have other things because here it mentions the hormones like the testosterone and the estrogen. But, you know, there's people that they're with their partner and they have they have no explanation as to they're like, I'm attracted to this person. Why? You know what's going on with me? And a lot of it's going to do with their stress. They're the disconnect between the neurotransmitters because of the diet not being taken care of. This is a health issue.

and what I was looking for was more so looking into pheromones to see like can you measure pheromones and then see what pheromones are attracted to each other because that was the last thing I was talking about was like how to change dating profiles at some point to make them more effective and they've I've noticed they've tried different methods and so far the methods they're not they're not feasible because you know they're not accurate this

The base of my skull is swollen and it hurts and I got to see the chiropractor tomorrow. But my jaw and face and click and everything in my neck. So I'm trying to look at different, like different things. But in the meantime, when I see something like that, so I'm going to ask, because I'm here with like looking at Chad GPT.

so i said so if the person's neurotransmitters are experiencing disconnect technically thus they can also affect the person's love life by experiencing disconnect from love or experiencing dopamine so yes when a person's neurotransmitters are out of balance or not functioning optimally due to the stress trauma depression see and this is before i even asked the question so it's confirming i'm like this is exactly where my brain is going

Certain medications, neurological conditions, it can absolutely affect their ability to love, attraction, and connection. So low dopamine levels are linked to anhedonia, the inability to feel pleasure or motivation. See, this is why, see, this is exactly, I love, that's why I waited to ask the question because I was like, let me go through my brain first and see if it confirms my thoughts. This can make someone feel emotionally flat.

or an interested in romantic or sexual connection. And then thus, that's why the person has to always be either attracted by lust or pulled in by lust or is pulled in by lust because nothing else will get them to get those feelings elevated enough. And it's just going to be a reaction, like an emotional reaction, basically, in heat.

This is common in depression, certain neurological conditions like Parkinson's. See, so serotonin imbalance, serotonin affects mood stability and emotional regulation. It can disrupt emotional attachment or bonding. So this is exactly what I'm saying. Like you could be with someone and be like, I like this person. I love this person. I'm attracted to this person, but something's wrong.

And the person might be dealing with mood instability, emotional regulation. They might be dealing with the reduced libido, blunt emotional intensities, neurological issues. All of that combination has a lot to do, and it sounds crazy, but it is. It's because the body's not balanced and it has a lot to do with diet. It has to do with the disease that the person is being afflicted by, but the neurotransmitters aren't able to make that connection.

So the only thing that gets them, it puts them out of balance, gets them out of whack. And then the only thing that kind of gets them up and going is lust. And, you know, lust can lead you down a lot of different pathways there. People who have experienced early attachment trauma or chronic stress might produce less oxytocin or respond less to it. This can lead to difficulty with trust, bonding,

and maintaining intimacy. Neurochemical disconnect in relationships. When these systems are off, a person might feel emotionally numb or disconnected in relationships, have trouble forming or maintaining attachments, experience love intellectually, but not emotionally or viscerally. So neurochemical disconnects can absolutely impair love life, both in how we feel love and how we express it.

Healing this often involves a mix of psychological work, lifestyle changes, and sometimes medical treatment. So this here to me is very interesting as far as like bringing healing to, well, this could bring healing to people's sex life. I always joked, like my friends and I, because my favorite beaches in Miami was the nude beach. Not because I would get nude, but eventually I planned on

Um, but the old, you don't see young people there, by the way. Like, it's not like you see young naked people. What you do see is old, old, old naked people because the old people don't give a shit no more. So, and they would just want to be free. And I thought, what is the best thing ever to be naked in the ocean? And I would always joke. And my friends would joke that we would be like, Vanessa is going to be the person that's naked on the beach, counseling people about their sex life when they're old and she's old. And maybe.

so anyways um yeah because this here has a lot to do with taking care of your health and you know this is a big deal because also people who feel unloved it might be that they also have a dealing with their health and their disconnect and you know why you notice it in

you know the older generation or older ages you would say is because it's a long term of diet of that same diet so long term of that diet leads to that like a long term of that american diet as i have a cookie on my counter but i also have cottage cheese um so this to me is really interesting because you know when you're talking about having

neurological issues whether it be small or just because of the disconnect that's occurring or because it is a neurological disease you're talking about it affecting a lot of different things and how to bring healing to that by recreating by recreating and rebuilding those bridges on that neurotransmitter in order for it to connect and once it connects you know bring healing to these type of situations

because sometimes we think, oh, it's that we're not attracted to this person or that you're actually having an issue that is not something that you could heal. And in essence, you could heal it. You could heal it and also rebuild those bridges, which is another thing that when you say rebuild those bridges, there's one thing, that's the other side of what I'm working on,

but the other aspect that I'm working on is this part, which is easy. How do you remove the bad things? That's fine, but what do you put in to rebuild the bridge is another. So as far as that goes, everybody's different, but this to me would be a very big deal because it doesn't seem like it's a very big deal to certain people, but I'm like, it's a very big deal for a man.

When he cannot perform, that leads to a lot of different sentiments of feeling, one, vulnerability, embarrassed. Listen, I don't know why that happened, but I've dealt with men that had this problem, and then they didn't have that problem no more. There's ways of fixing it. That's all I'm saying. There's ways of fixing it.

and it is a big deal. It is a big deal. But especially when you're talking about at the emotional level, the depression, yes, but you're also talking about at the emotional level where you're saying like you feel flat and you're not able to connect with other people or really maintain a relationship and not really knowing the reasons why. It's different that you say,

Oh, it's a defect of mine. I have a problem. And then it's you, right? But what if it's that it's something chemically related and it's something more solvable, like it's something that you could resolve. It's just that we think that it's going through the avenue of psychologically, which sure, for some cases in part, it could be that, but we don't end up, uh,

looking into the health aspect the diet aspect of how it affects it in the first place and then that becomes really important because it's like well that's where you find the the healing of that bridge that pathway in the first place um the person wouldn't know because they're trying to explore it in all of whether they're worthy or not whether they you know they're just broken whether it you know they're not going to work again you know it's not going to work again and

And this happens to women too. So that's aside from, that's for the men. Now for the women, the same thing, you know, having that disconnect, feeling like they can't connect with another person, going through depression. And I'm sure that this happens. One, if they have neurological issues, yes. But at the same time, if they're dealing with depression, you're talking about having a disconnect.

But also, this goes for other things. For me in specific, what was this thing called? And I have it. It's the strangest thing. Gosh, I forgot the name right now. It's because I have such a horrible migraine. But yet, this is what I want to think about for some reason. Well, anyways, it's a neurological disorder. And the body can't really calibrate itself.

fully and this is partially why I'm looking into it because you have to try to find balance right but what it does is it creates kind of this neurological disconnect so this is important because this is something that you go at you know sometimes we think everything is psychological when you can say it's not all psychological but there's a way of bridging the gap and it's something that is

more so in control, in your control to be able to, you know, work on, but also be aware of. And I mean, that's, to me, that would be life changing, because that's simple, you know, and saying, hey, you know, let's work on rebuilding these neural pathways for you.

and then that way you can repair these areas because you know you're talking about healing them to every extent healing your love life then it's become healing of your past healing of what you're going through healing of your past relationships and then to top it off because when you think of these things when the when the person gets heartbroken when the person gets let down when the person goes through depression that causes stress when you're going through a divorce when

all of these things, they lead to this, especially if you already have a preexisting condition where you were dealing with something that was neurological in the first place, right? So you're talking about dealing with that and then to top it off, you're dealing with the heartbreak and everything that brings on the stress, right? So it's an added thing. So you're talking about being able to heal

all the way around and then rebuild in a healthy way so that you now are not introducing just lust because you might be dealing with also, because that lowers people's, you know, especially if you're talking about dealing with erectile dysfunction, you know, the person will be dealing with low self-esteem, different things. There's different things that come out of it. So being able to

then say hey change your diet let's work on this you know you're talking about a full-fledged healing healing from the heart healing in the mind and then healing physically to actually also have attraction that's healthy because the person can't get out of the toxicity either when it comes to things like this and it's something very physical very chemical chemical imbalance

They're going to strictly go after lust every time. So how do you get out of that pattern? It's more than just getting out of the pattern. It's having the knowledge to recognize that it's also the health. Bringing the body into alignment in order for that person to say, okay, now I have forgiven. Now I have healed. Now I've healed in the mind. Now I've healed in the heart. Now I've healed emotionally. And at the same time, I've worked on myself and my self-love.

See, the self-love is important because you're talking about diet, exercise, giving yourself what you need. But more than that, this is an added feature of rebuilding the neural pathways. And then with that is when you're able to love and self-love again. This is, you know, it's a combination of things. But when you think about it and you say that has to do with self-love, loving yourself, going, taking yourself out, exercising, investing time in yourself.

and you go, that becomes so important. Because why? Because chemically, your body knows. It regulates itself. Even I would say, even if they don't give the specific, but in certain cases, because if you're already dealing with something neurological, then yeah, you need maybe a specific diet in order to rebuild that, which is what I'm looking more into. But you'd end up being able to really heal all the way around

to then have that connection with someone again and have love and feel love and not have to pursue toxic things to get you to either feel excited or feel something. And this has a lot to do to, it's just, what is this? Well, when you're neurodivergent, this is one thing, I would think maybe autism, but what is this other thing that I got? And I just don't remember the name.

Anyways, I'll probably remember it later, but my head hurts. Anyways, basically the person cannot, it's a neurological disorder and you have misfires. So, and this, it has to do kind of with the same thing. It's an imbalance where your body cannot regulate itself. So, you know, you're talking about several different things aside from also the Parkinson's

you know, any type of MS, so many different things. So this to me would be important to look at. I would think that this is important to, I think it would be really helpful. But yeah, anyways, so yeah, so this is just my

my thinking at the moment, because I was like, let me look into pheromones. And then when I read that, I was like, huh, this makes my brain go somewhere else completely as to what I'm thinking. But I really think that that would be very, very helpful to know those things and really work on, yes, self-love, but on the person's diet, it makes a difference then. It truly makes a difference. But the main thing that I'm

Connecting is that you know high sugar diet high sugar diet is what's making that difference In healing or not But anyways